Forgiveness is the best virtue - Tell your child
- Aug 16, 2017
- Rima Bose
Let go of the hard feelings. Forgive him/her. Be friends once again. Shake hands.” We often hear ourselves saying these sentences to our children. Human makes mistakes. Children, being immature and sensitive often feel angry, frustrated or sad due to the mistakes rendered by someone else. Our duty is to make the little kids understand that no one is perfect in this world. Certain words like “That’s okay” or “Thank you” will suffice the real human attributes. Kids must be taught about pardoning others to get a blissful life.
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Teach the kids that we must forgive others as we need to be forgiven.
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Mahatma Gandhi has rightly said, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
The fact lies in forgiving others is to make you move forward. It cannot happen unless you forgive yourself, situation and move on. It is considered as a constant attitude.
Your child must learn from you:-
• Past sorrows can result in hurting people. Tell the innocent souls that if somebody is misbehaved or rude, they may have certain painful issues dumped in their hearts. They are trying to overcome. Therefore, the kids must be reasonable and not react angrily.
• Tell them that you know forgiving is hard when you are still hurt. Forgiveness requires lots of courage. It reflects the strength of one’s character and not weakness.
A tricky play for the kids:-
Whenever, you find it very hard to forgive, write the happening on a paper and your feelings about it. Tear the paper and flush it down the toilet, or, bury it in the garden, or, throw it in the dustbin. Listen to your favorite song, sing with it.
Tell the kid that any act of kindness will display your loving soul and you can easily get over the unhappy episode.
What to do if somebody keeps the child hurting repeatedly?
Forgiving someone doesn’t indicate that you have given that particular person to harm you again and again. If anyone is nasty, speak to your parents and teachers and let them have the knowledge of that person’s misbehavior. Hurting others is never right.
A verse from Bible depicts that if we confess the sins, He is faithful. He is just. He forgives us our sins, and cleans us from the unrighteousness. – 1 John 1:9
Forgiveness needs kids to be away from their pride. Tell the angry young child that if the Almighty can forgive those who cause harm to Him sincerely, they why can’t we forgive the person who pushed us to the ground yesterday, or, broke the doll today? We must make them understand that vindication is a reoccurring action. We have to discharge minor and major issues caused by others.
If a child learns to forgive from a very early age, he/she will be able to lead a psychologically healthy life.
Do not forget the incident
Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting. Never forget what harm is done to you by the other person. Forgive them as you no longer want to hold the grudge or ill feelings on the mishap maker. If you forget, the same occurrence can repeat.
State your feelings
Never be quiet about your feelings on the trouble maker. Before accepting their excuses, speak out directly about your feelings. For example, if your friend ate your Tiffin, before accepting his apology, tell him that you felt disgusting because he ate the food completely without asking you and you have to starve for the whole school hours. He must ask for your permission before eating from your box.”
Parents and guardians! Sometimes you need to look beyond the gloomy actions, especially in the case of children.
For example, a particular kid is misbehaving and throwing tantrums suddenly. He/she broke something and is not regretting. Look further. It may happen because the senior kids in his group didn’t allow him to play with them and he stood outside the playground for the whole day. The child, unable to explain his disappointments came back home in a terrible mood and started doing nonsensical activities.
So, help the child to accept positivity and negativity, acceptance and rejection in life. It will inject forgiveness, empathy, and compassion in them. Anger doubled with anger will lead to more anger. Hatred and revenge will lead to destruction, whereas, love and compassion heal everything.
Watch the science behind healing by forgiveness:
Know when to let go:
Tell the children, “Let your ego go out of life and forgive others.” Forgiveness defeats bitterness.
Watch what UCLA psychiatrist Dr. Stephen Marmer has to say about forgiveness. He shared three essences of it- exoneration, forbearance, and release.
Finally, we close the discussion by repeating after Alexander Pope: - “To err is human, to forgive, divine.”
Rima is an ardent writer and an awe-inspiring fitness trainer. She surmises in expressing through her mind that has been penned down in her writings. She has maintained her sportsmanship through regular martial arts and swimming. A beautiful mind and a glowing soul shine eternity as per her stance.
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