Ways to Building Self Confidence in your Child

Ways to Building Self Confidence in your Child

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Self-esteem is the way an individual perceives himself or herself and the core belief that he/she frames. A high self esteem help in shaping the right perspective and perceptions about oneself thereby, raising his confidence level and self belief. This positive outlook is instilled in by parents, family, relatives and other adults at the onset of life through teaching about the basic morals and values of life and offering unconditional love to them


Essentials to Remember about your Child

  • Keep the self esteem of your child in mind when you raise him/her
  • Children adopt the ways of their parents. Hence your indifferent nature and rude behavior
  • Children can sense the way they are being treated and loved by parents. Give them the warmth and comfort zone that makes them feel loved and cared
  • By analyzing the behavior and feedback of their parents children realize the way they are doing. Praise and support them, point out their mistakes but do not vehemently criticize them
  • Teach them the ways of co-operation so that they can exhibit them with others. If you are impatient with them and do not co-operate they might never learn the art of modesty

Steps to Building a Child’s Self Esteem (Check grooming courses)

Display love and affection: Parents must display their love and affection towards their children that boosts their self esteem and moral. Right from infancy a child must be treated aptly that makes him/r worthyof being loved.

A sense of belonging: The child must feelaccepted and loved by all from family to other extended groups like cousins, friends, relatives, community, schoolmates and so on. Without this the child feels rejected and lonely. However, support from them builds their confidence level and uplifts them.

Compliment your child: Compliment and appreciate your child oftenthat makes them feel encouraged. Works like ‘well done,’ ‘this makes me proud of you,’ ‘I like the way you have done it’ and others makes them feel good and encourages them. However, your compliments must be credible. Exaggerated compliments like ‘you are the best,’ ‘you are highly admired’, ‘you are the nicest person ever’ and others can create an ego in them thus, hindering their growth and progress. This can have a negative impact.

Set goals and objectives: At the vey onset set your goals and objectives and lay down the principles. Before setting the goals and principles keep in mind his/her capabilities, age, preferences, nature and aptitude level that helps him/her to achieve it. In the way of achieving the goal coach your child and help him/her, reinforcing the confidence and self-image.

Punish the behavior, not the person: If your child misbehaves or does an offence activity you as a parent must rebuke and punish the behavior or action rather than the child. You need to explain the child why the act was not acceptable and why it should not be repeated in future. You can comment ‘you are a good child and should not engage in such bad activities’ rather than commenting ‘you are a bad child.’

Do not be abusive or rude: Never everuse abusive wordsthat cause aversion and retaliation in a child. Punishment might frighten children causing them to stay away from you. It also at times sets wrong examples and the child might adapt the words to use them on others in a similar situation. Severe punishment and rude words tears down self esteem causing humiliation and dishonor

Be encouraging & positive: Talk positive about your child and tell him/her that he has the strength and capability to perform all tasks with excellence. Offer him support when he/she needs it. In presence of others compliment your child thatgives him/ her self assurance.

Never compare: Never compare your child to others, rather be proud of him/her and help him perform his activities whenever he/she falters. Never say ‘why can’t you be like Raj?’ or ‘learn from Raj how he performs, you are worthless.’ Such harsh words reduce the sense of worthiness of the child. Be proud of your child and be fortune to be his/her parents.

Ways to Deal with your Child

  • Know his strengths and preferences
  • Remain updates about his changing likes and dislikes
  • Take note where he/she needs you the most
  • Maintain sense of trust between you and your child
  • Help him/her to make their right choices and decisions
  • Teach them about self control and the ways to respect others to get them in return
  • Always converse with them to know about their activities
  •  Give them a positive outlook about like
  • Be their friend and try to think according to their perspective
  • Teach to accept mistakes and failures and speak the truth
  • Create a sense of family esteem
  • Love them unconditionally

The formative years of a child’s life are the foundation stone for a bright future. Kind words, support and boost up effectively contributes in developing his/her self-image and aids in being successful in every field of life.


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